Tales of Soplak...

Surprise, surprise, surprise...

My first blog will be about the topic we always want discussed especially when drinking with friends (well based on my experience anyway).  This post is about...

 ♥♥♥Love♥♥♥

But no, make that a "HELL NO", this is not about my current love life or lack thereof (insert sad face here).  I won't be soon blogging about that.  First of all, well for me, it would be inappropriate and disrespectful especially without the consent of the other person.  Also,  I  would not know who may read this blog, I mean, come on, who are you people, I don't even know you (insert belat face here). Instead what I am about to do is give you tips on how you can go over that "hump" and move on especially after a break up or worse, after you have been "soplaked".  I'm no love expert or love guru, but here are 5 simple tips (based on my own experience, worked for me anyway) you may or may not use if you really want to move on.

1. Listen to Music

One of the best emotional outlets for me is Music. 

But don't go on listening to sad songs like "Tamia - Officially Missing You", "Side A - Set You Free", "King - Maybe", "Tonic - You Wanted More", "Barry Manillow - Somewhere Down The Road", "Mariah Carey - Breakdown."  Yes, these kind of songs will make you cry and will make you think of things that you should not after a breakup or after being dumped.

Instead go listen to songs that will make you stronger emotionally.  Try listening to "Cake - I Will Survive", "30 Seconds to Mars - The Kill", "Hoobastank - Running Away", "Alanis Morissette - You Ought To Know", "Teeth - Sorry".  These songs, will make you realize, "You left me, but hey, I'm still alive, so I will move on."  These type of songs will also make you realize that you are stronger than you thought you are.

2. Don't Ponder on What Could Have Been, Because If It Should Have Been, It Would Have Been

The worst thing you could do is to think on the "What If's." Thinking like this would just make you more lonely, It's like rubbing salt into a wound, or kicking yourself in the nuts, or jamming your pinkie toe to a door, or..... oh, what the heck, you get the point...

All I'm trying to say is that, if you were meant for each other, then your relationship would have beaten the odds.  Things really do happen for a reason, you were really not meant for each other, deal with it.

3. Don't Avoid or Ignore Him/Her, As Much as Possible Keep in Touch

Kind of stupid huh? Keeping in touch with someone who broke your heart? I bet many will even disagree with this.

But if you ignore/avoid/shut someone out completely.  What will happen?  You will think of that person almost every time.  From the moment you wake up until before you sleep, I am sure, you will be thinking of that someone.  That will be harder if you are trying to move on so STOP PUNISHING YOURSELF.

Best you can do is keep communicating, pretend as if nothing happened.  believe me, it's hard at first but eventually, you will learn to accept it as it is.

4.  Think of the Benefits of Moving On

I mean hey, for every bad thing, there must be something good that comes with it.

Breaking up, yes it will hurt because you just lost someone you cared for, but it does not mean the end of the world (don't be so sentimental, it's not!!!).

This just means that you are now "Open for business" LOL!
  

5. Do Stuff to Keep Yourself Busy

What better way to forget someone and to move on than not thinking about them every time.  Work as if your life depended on it.  Keep yourself distracted with the things you love to do.  Go out with friends.  Hang out, stay happy, climb mountains, run marathons, start blogging... (ooooppppssssss, I may have said too much right there)


So there, 5  simple tips you may or may not use if you really want to move on.  These worked for me in the past, I just hope some if not all of it works for you too.

Just remember, for every door that closes, another opens up.